I miss the drunk dial. The passive way of telling someone just what you think at just the wrong time. The way of dealing with feelings for someone that you’re not even sure you have, but adding drama to it to make it seem more real. The innocent ways we go looking for fun.
I am so thankful that iPhones and the Bad Decision Blocker app didn’t exist back in my drunk dial hay day, because who knows if I would’ve ever surpassed my bad habit knowing I had an app to fall back on as my technological crutch?
It was only after many, many nights of wanting only to talk to someone in the hours after midnight that I finally realized that this does not make a relationship. It doesn’t even a friendship make. Booty calls are booty calls, and I tried to gloss it over with labeling it as “friends with benefits”. But a friend doesn’t call just to hook-up, even if there are sporadic conversations or attempts to hang out during waking hours. Even if reciprocal, it’s not friendship, it’s bullshit. Fun, but bullshit nevertheless. The key for me was to quit thinking that a drunk dial, when reviewed and analyzed in the daytime, equaled a friendship or could turn into a relationship; it wasn’t, and it wouldn’t.
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Maybe this is a lesson you all knew from the get-go or learned long before me, but for me it was like walking in the wrong direction and not even knowing it. You may think you’re heading the right way, going through the required steps, until you end up somewhere you definitely don’t want to be. And eventually, I saw what a waste it became because clearly, if you’re only looking for someone between the hours of midnight and 3 a.m., then you’re looking in the wrong places. Not to mention looking at the wrong person. Lesson learned.
So while I’m happy and amused with the apps available out there to prevent such mishaps, I’m even happier to say that I don’t need it. Here’s to booty calls. Here’s to relationships. Here’s to all my bad decisions; past, present, and future, and here’s to being able to block them my own damn self.
Author: Courtney Hartmann
Comments
haha i wish my phone had that application. the only thing worse than drunk dialing is texting in my opinion, cause usually both parties dont remember the phone call if its a typical drinking night, but w/ texting theres evidence right there to remind u in the morning. (unless you leave voicemails which i tend to do)
on the contrary, if you’re not stalking someone than i think drunk dialing isnt so unhealthy cause it reflects living in the moment-ive called many people in the hours of 12-3am cause thats when im the most lonely, and although it made me look like a fool, i know i made that call for a reason