Image credit: Audrey Fukuman of SF Weekly
I stumbled upon this image on StumbleUpon and thought it was too funny not to sure considering the fact that a) women clearly have more standards than men and b) the female equation fits with the four man plan concept rather perfectly.
Before I indulge you with the four man plan, let me just point out that intelligence and humor seem to be negotiable traits for men based on physical appearance. For women, there are no negotiables because we want what we want when we want it.
Now, it is my belief that in order to have a fulfilling relationship, you and your partner must be attracted to each other on four basic levels of attraction: physical attraction, intellectual attraction emotional attraction, and spiritual attraction.
Physical attraction is usually the first thing people tend to notice. It’s the magnetic force that sometimes draws people together. Intellectual attraction is what usually develops once you start talking to a person and getting to know one another. Beautiful minds make people stand out from all the rest by enhancing physical attraction.
When you have a partner that looks good and can carry a conversation, even has a sense of humor, then an emotional attraction begins to develop. I theorize that the more you laugh with each other, the stronger the emotional attraction. The last level of attraction is that of spirituality. This type of attraction is not exclusive to religious types. It is based on a shared belief or values system that amplifies your energetic attraction.
The notion that we can find everything we want in one person is ridiculous. The minute you expect someone to fulfill each of your basic levels of attraction, disappointment is sure to follow. For this reason, I highly recommend the four man plan which involves dating people who each rank high on one level of attraction but lower on others. In other words, have one man (or woman, if you will) for each of your relationship needs and drop them one by one as you discover individuals who can fulfill multiple needs.
The key to the four man plan is having integrity. The four man plan is all about openness, honesty and more importantly, a mutual understanding and respect, and that, my friends, is the equation for love, romance and fabulous sex!
Author: Niki Payne
