In the quest to find love, people often forget that they are still subconsciously attracted to potential mates for reasons that are purely primal. Please do not buy into the bullshit that you can “grow” to find So-and-So attractive. No-no. That’s merely a myth that ugly people have injected into our psyches to enable themselves to be considered as sexual partners. Yes, it’s shallow to want to hump someone based on looks alone, but let’s be real: physical appearance is equally as important as emotional compatibility.
In the animal world, beasts seek out mates who will help them produce offspring that will add to the strength of their species. It’s highly unlikely that a gimpy lion gets any play.
Likewise, humans subconsciously seek lovers (regardless of intellectualized motives) who are genetically complementary. Too many similar genes can result in weak or defective offspring, hence the scientific reason why incest is not best. Our instincts help us sniff out the superior prospects for each of us as individuals, and similarly, snuff out the inferior ones with whom we’d have gross kids.
Smell is one of the most important determining factors, and a lot of us aren’t even aware that it comes into play. Maybe you can recall a past lover or potential relationship material who suited you beautifully…but they stank. You hated their smell and possibly even dumped them because of it. Like people who smell like soap. It’s not that they are overly-hygienic; rather, their skin-smell is repulsive to your particular nose. To someone else, that smell could be nostril heaven. So let THEM breed.
It’s for this particular reason that I take issue with cologne and perfume. Both contain extracts and oils combined specifically to drive us to distraction with lust, love, comfort, and even trust. Here’s the shitty part: if someone is disguising their natural scent with the one they purchased from Macy’s, they could lure in an unsuspecting mate who they are unsuitable for. It makes me wonder how many genetically-foul children and nasty divorces have resulted from store-bought scents.
In an alternate situation, what about the people who douse themselves in too much perfume or cologne (or patchouli) and smell ghastly, scaring off the mates they could be perfect for? Think of all the lonely people masking their lovely natural scents with putridity, and hence, sabotaging themselves. Breaks my heart.
