Why are most self-help books aimed toward women?
As a result of movies like “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” and “He’s Just Not That Into You,” women pretty much have a good idea of what they’re doing wrong when it comes to love, romance and relationships. Even the relationship sections of bookstores are filled with self-help books geared primarily towards women.
But what about the fellas? There are definitely a lot of men out there who are in dire need of a clue. Here are some things men have done wrong that instantly turn us girls off causing us to lose interest completely:
Call her by another girl’s name. This actually happened to me when I was 14 and dating a guy from a different high school. I dumped him so fast after that, especially because he would talk about this “friend” from school all the time.
Annoy the crap out of her with a series of lame jokes only you think is funny. I actually made a booty-call take a taxi home once because he was way too drunk and way too annoying with his wannabe comedic act. Little did I realize that he got dropped off at my house when I subtly hinted for him to get lost.
Tell her how much she reminds you of your ex-girlfriend. I can see how this might be meant as a compliment, but no girl wants to be compared to the ex (just like no guy wants to be compared to an ex). We want to be better than the ex.
Make constant references to all the girls you’ve banged or could be banging. I once went out with a guy who did this because I rejected him for sex. I’m sorry but there’s no way you can convince me to have sex with you by telling me how all these mystery girls are always wanting you. I don’t buy it, and even if I did, it’s a major turn OFF (not on).
Ask her for anal sex every time you see her. There’s nothing more annoying than a desperate hound humping your leg, right? Well, the same concept applies with anal sex.
Answer a booty-call text right in front of her and ask her for a threesome… pretty please. That is just straight up rude. Unless the object of your affection is a little bi-curious, this is a definite way to lose a girl’s interest.
Talk about nothing but sports or lifting weights. Sorry boys, but there is more to life than your bulging biceps (as nice as they are!) or the stats of your favorite player. Unless you have those things in common, you may want to consider broadening your horizons.
Have no goals in life. There is nothing more unattractive than a man whose only apparent goal in life is to party and have fun. Aspire for something damnit!
Talk too much about only yourself. Most men don’t really like when women like to yap. Well, some women don’t like men who yap either. “They talk, that’s the problem,” commented a Facebook friend. It’s one thing to talk a lot. That, we can live with, but when all you do is talk about yourself without learning more about the other person, you become a bore.
Invite her over and then ignore her completely by playing video games the entire time she’s there. We have crap to do, so if we come over to spend time with you just for you to waste our time, don’t expect to see us again unless you’re lucky.
Some men do these things accidentally, but there are also men who do these things on purpose (because they know they can get away with it). Don’t be one of those girls who sticks around despite these shortcomings. He’s not worth it.
So what do you think are the top 10 ways to lose a guy’s interest?
Author: Niki Payne
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There are 9 things… I guess I’ll add one more:
“Come over for a booty call and not bring cheese and crackers.” Seriously. This happens so often! Grr… It’s like, be courteous and bring something to the table. Girls are probably like, ‘I’m bringing sex! That should be MORE than enough.’ Well, you don’t bring Sex to a formal dinner party do you? Treat coming over like a dinner party… there will just more sweating.
Great post Niki!
my ex boyfriend check marked all of the above!
can i also say.. that for those men out there who think it’s flattering to call all the time and be overly interested.. that this is a turn off. i have a life of my own, and i don’t need you to kill any chance you had by bugging me constantly. the first and maybe second initiative are appreciated, but if you keep trying and she doesn’t seem interested.. chances are she’s not. this applies to ladies as well.. and probably more often.. but the door swings both ways.
This might be the best article I’ve read this year.
Hey John, I’ll bring the cheese and crackers as long as you bring the meat! lol
if i go to your apartment for the first time and there are pubes all over your toilet seat, ya doneeeeee.
well to begin with i like the article but i gata disagree that the ten steps really work ive been attempting them for over a month or longer and no luck maybe i should just sleep with the roomate.